Friday, July 8, 2016

Caring for Your Parents

If you are forced to divide your time between caring for your children and caring for your elderly parent, you know how hard it is. This is especially true for single mothers. There is no shame in admitting that there is not enough time for you to take care of all of your parent’s needs and still care for your children and yourself. The key to getting help with your loved one is knowing where to look and what to ask for.

Keep a daily planner with details of appointments and commitment. Don’t allow anyone to coerce you into overscheduling. Time is a valuable resource, and it is also a limited resource. You should also keep a financial ledger detailing the expenses you cover for your parent. When you run out of time or money, your planner or ledger will tell you exactly what you need to ask for from other family members.

You may be overlooking sources of help. Assigning even a few small tasks to others will ease the burden on you. For example, ask a child to read to Grandma for a half hour while you prepare dinner, or ask your sister to pick up your father’s prescriptions on her way home from work. When you get the opportunity to delegate bigger jobs, take advantage of it.

Utilize Resources
Find out what resources your community offers for elderly or disabled adults. Community centers, free meal delivery, and no-cost medical transportation programs can make your life much easier. Don’t ignore other resources, such as cleaning services, paid companions, and special transportation designed for seniors. Finally, make use of special equipment and furnishings. Lift chairs, scooters, adjustable beds, walk-in showers, and ramps allow seniors to be more independent. New innovations are constantly being developed. For example, Acorn Stairlifts New York, NY even has a stair lift that will safely climb spiral or other oddly configured stairs.

Take Care of Yourself Too
With all of your duties and responsibilities, it’s very easy to forget to take care of yourself. It’s important to remember, however, that if your health declines you could end up unable to care for anyone at all. Take a few moments each day to take a hot bath, work in your garden, meditate, or read a good book. Try to arrange for a few hours each week to spend doing something you enjoy.

Caring for children and parents at the same time is a difficult task, especially without a partner’s to help. That doesn’t mean you have to let your family commitments grind you down. Determine that you are going to create your own support system and then follow through on your plan.

Disclamer: Guest post, all ideas and information is not mine.

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